I still let my own 6th grader dictate to me at times. He’s working on his keyboarding skills, and his handwriting is good when he takes the time, but it’s good for them to experience being able to capture that flow of ideas.

At this level, anything to make writing fun is a plus. If she’s a socialite, maybe let her pick out some stationery to write to friends and family. Selecting a pen that feels good might help some, too. A special journal, a fun keyboarding program to get her typing up to speed — sometimes it’s worth the little gadgets to get us over a block.

It does sound though that Emily has some physical issue here. If she is receiving help at school through special services, consult with them for their thoughts on it. I’ve heard about success with a program called Handwriting Without Tears, which may help with forming letters.

Ask Emily if a hand-held recorder would help for remembering her ideas. I carry one with me at times when I need to think through something I’m writing — on walks, in the car, etc.

If you notice that it’s writing assignments that get this response, more than other writing, then see what you can do to help her increase her comfort level.

As we travel through this year, I’ll be sharing ways to help kids understand and overcome their perfectionism when it comes to writing. It’s more wide-spread than we imagine.

If you find something that helps, please share it here for others who may be experiencing the same issues.